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This Guest Post Scared the Pants Off Me


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I’m excited and nervous. I wrote my first guest post recently, and it scared the pants off of me. It just went live.

Conflict is hard for me. I’m not very good at it, and I didn’t realize when I volunteered for the gig that the subject matter I chose for it has the potential to create conflict. The name of the post is “What I Learned from Self-Made Man, by Norah Vincent”, and here’s a brief excerpt:

Norah Vincent is a journalist whose work has appeared in the Los Angeles Times, The Village Voice, the New York Post, The New Republic, and The Washington Post.

Years ago, she underwent voice and physical training, sought help from professional make-up artists, and lived as a man for eighteen months. Among other activities, she joined a bowling league, dated, and joined a men’s therapy group. Self-Made Man is the story of her experiences, a thoughtful, humanitarian outsider’s view on what it means to be a man.

I couldn’t figure out how to start, proceed, or end. Should I explain my feminist credentials? Apologize to my feminist past for taking a stand for men and men’s needs? But what should I apologize for? This book really moved me. It’s important. I went in circles for weeks.

Michelle gave me an extension, I eventually figured it out, and it’s now live at Look Through My Lens. I’d love to hear what you think.

Michelle writes about “college, feminism, culture, inspiration and motivation.” She’s a thoughtful woman and writer bringing her own experience to her articles. Her blog is a zero tolerance for intolerance space, and I love that she blasts that out loud on her front page.

Two of my favorite articles are her How to Stay Sober in College and Why I Am Sex Positive. Please go give Michelle some blog love!

15 thoughts on “This Guest Post Scared the Pants Off Me

  1. I’ll check it out. Congrats of being asked to guest post! You’re great!

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  2. Feminism is supposed to support all people, men included. Supporting that men have feelings and rights is not anti-feminist at all. Thanks for sharing on my blog!

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    • I agree, and thank you for putting that into words for me. When I grew up, in the seventies, there was a lot of focus on patriarchal suppression, and basically every man was looked at with suspicion. It was about that time when Robert Bly came to prominence, eventually publishing Iron John, and beginning a men’s movement that acknowledged how screwed men are in the current sociopolitical schema. I suppose my fears reflect my era. It’s so great to think about this stuff, and grow! Thanks so much for visiting me today, and leaving your comment. (:

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  3. My husband works at an all female college, we have three grown daughters, one grandchild (a girl), and most of our dogs have been, um, shall we say “female”. Sometimes he just has to get out of Girl World. Thanks for being sensitive that men have issues also, and are need of compassion and patience and encouragement, just like those of us with only X chromasomes.

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  4. Just read your guest post on “Look Through My Lens”. Brilliant. So well written and fascinating topic. Kudos!! Freaking great!

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    • Aww, thanks, SG. It’s great to get that kind of feedback. Usually I write something and it just kind of spits itself out. This came kicking and screaming. I suppose that’s partly *because* it is such a fascinating topic, and such a thoughtful book, it was really hard to figure out where to start and what I had room to say. Thanks so much for visiting both of our blogs. (:


  5. Didn’t know of this book (yes, I live under a rock). Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it. Very thought-provoking. I see my partner’s acts as acts of love, but hadn’t thought about reciprocating in kind, communicating my love in his language, as you suggest. Looking forward to reading the book to see what else I might learn. Thanks!

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  6. Hey! Sorry it’s been a while. I was thinking of you recently (I met a knitter of natural fibers and dyes). 🙂 I always love reading your thoughts!